Spiraling Through Life

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Comment by Patricia Sue Baas on October 14, 2009 at 8:09pm

Its just about New Years Ladies. Hope all have a blessed and safe night. Just clearing up an ear ache, Tooth aches, ear aches any pain around the brain hurts bad!

Comment by Lakota (Lady of the woods) on July 17, 2009 at 12:06am

MERRY MEET GROUP!!! JUST JOINED>>>

Comment by Susan on April 14, 2009 at 11:34pm

It also occurred to me that my brother is a sonewhat recovered complainer. He used to spend all his time (and mine) complaining about his job, and how is is ruining his health, but he doesn't do that as much anymore. Probably because of the bored expressions he saw on everyone's faces! Showing boredom might be a good thing, because it helps the complainer move past the issues and start focusing on the life that is passing them by...

Comment by lightdancer54 on April 13, 2009 at 11:11pm

Oddly enough, Susan, while I've had to be away from this forum I've been taking your advice. I have a long history of knowing how to redirect critical family and sometimes acquaintances. However, the sounding board is something I've done most of my life. The hard part was getting the people to get off the same old song and find something new. I'm still not good at it, but it's getting more amusing to try.

As for the not working, I've attacked it head on. I'm working on my health. But I have decided that I've wasted too much time pleasing other people. I've known what I wanted to do for a career since I was small. And now I'm working on that. I have a group I test out the results on. Most of the response has been positive. Some of it has been very helpful. With any luck, I may have a whole new career soon.

Now I need to really work on saying "no". I give a lot of myself and my minor stash of cash (whenever I have it) to a number of charities and a few two-legged leeches who seem to have an affinity for knowing when I've come into the green.

I was brought up to put the other person first. It makes it very hard to do the right thing for me. Meanwhile, I find time heals. I can't seem to bring myself to say "no" to family, but I didn't give money to one of the charities I don't believe in this week. Progress! :) --lightdancer54

Comment by Susan on March 27, 2009 at 9:13pm

Lightdancer: I am new to the group, so please forgive me if I am speaking out of turn, but I have experienced your problem quite a bit lately. Ordinarily I am very introverted and don't have friends (thereby avoiding the whole issue of being asked for advice), but I have become a sounding board for my sister in law lately and I have found a couple of things that seem to work:
1. I try to provide supportive words and then try to redirect her to some her to some spiritual or personal growth opportunity, or 2. change the subject. The first option is usually the best: You are hurt and can't work? Oh, what a wonderful opportunity to catch up on your reading or take up a new form of creativity! The ones who truly want new ideas will be glad for them, and the ones who don't will soon stop asking.

Comment by Luann on February 26, 2009 at 7:57pm

thank you pixie. I will do this blessing

Comment by Luann on February 25, 2009 at 7:35pm

can someone tell me why I cannot read the comments left to my blog here?....Still a bit addle I think...LOL

Comment by lightdancer54 on February 19, 2009 at 12:05am

I'm glad to meet you Lady Morag. Maybe we can find this group to be something special together.

On my mind today is supporting others. I have had several friends and family approach me or inform me of their personal problems. For the most part, I know this is just one of those times where you listen. But in some cases, an answer or a response is expected. And then I'm stuck.

What do you say to a loved one who is suffering from repeated problems? It honestly begins to sounds like a bad country song. My mom died. my husband left me. I've fallen down and can't get back to work until I've healed. These are all important and frightening problems that are difficult. And there are many women that suffer the same ones.

So when mine come about, I hesitate to say anything. It's just more of the same. My dad died. My husband doesn't understand my problems. I'm sick enough that I can't go back to work, but I'm well enough that I shouldn't be asking for hand-outs. Hand me a guitar. I can do harmony.

Just wondered what other people think? Do you commiserate? Do you listen? Do you change the subject? --lightdancer54

Comment by Lady Morag on February 12, 2009 at 1:50pm

I am happy to find a group of women that I can fit in with. It is truly my pleasure to be a part of this wonderful group. Thank You

Comment by lightdancer54 on February 11, 2009 at 11:51pm

For years I had feelings of disappointment and sadness that Valentine's Day would never reach the image of it I had built in my mind. It wasn't the meaning behind the holiday. My religious practices don't include the saints. But I still had this idea that "true love" was expressed on a special day.

I have collected sayings over the years. Several would be appropriate now. But two were sent to me this year. I collected them for the first time in the last two years.

Which one do you think is most appropriate for you? Or do you have a love poem of your own?

There is pleasure in the pathless woods,
There is rapture on the lonely shore,
There is society, where none intrudes.
By the deep sea and music in its roar:
I love not man the less, but Nature more. -- George Gordon

The beauty of the trees,
The softness of the air,
The fragrance of the grass,
Speaks to me
And my heart soars. -- Chief Dan George

Hope you find what your heart craves. --lightdancer54

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